Getting back to dating can be a daunting prospect no matter how long it’s been since you were last single but for those who have been out of the dating pool for a while, it can seem an especially overwhelming prospect. These tips and tricks will help you get back out there feeling confident and ready to meet someone.
Focus on Yourself
Feeling good in your own skin and comfortable with who you are is the very first step before you even think about going on a date. It’s also important to spend some time figuring out what you’re looking for in a relationship so that you can prioritise yourself and your needs when you do start to date again, rather than getting swept along with what someone else wants. This can also help you recognise what you’re worth, meaning you’re less likely to ignore dating red flags or settle for someone you don’t really like just to be in a relationship.
Dress to Impress
Deciding what to wear for that all-important first date is crucial. First impressions count for a lot, and when you look good you feel good, so it’s important to take your time and choose an outfit that you feel best represents you and makes you feel great. Boost your self-confidence with lingerie and take time to do your hair and makeup as this can boost your self-esteem and help you come across as more confident during the date, even if you’re secretly a nervous wreck!
Set Expectations
It’s unlikely that your first date back on the scene will be the one where you meet the love of your life or feel that instant, life-changing connection so try not to place too much pressure on yourself – or your date – to make it perfect or force something that isn’t really there. Make sure to keep your expectations realistic going into each date so you don’t get discouraged if you encounter a few bad dates along the way. Remember that dating is supposed to be fun so try to enjoy each one without worrying about whether or not the other person is your soul mate and try to see it as a long game rather than a sprint to the finish. Dating can help you learn a lot about yourself and what you do – or don’t – want in a relationship so why rush the process?
Don’t Limit Yourself
Many of us may have a set idea about how we think we’ll meet ‘the one’ and are hesitant to try anything outside of our comfort zone but when it comes to dating, it’s important to keep an open mind as you never know who you might meet or where or when! You might assume you’re only going to be happy with someone who ticks all the boxes on your perfect-partner list and rely on online dating to help you whittle down your options but if that’s the case, you’re unlikely to be open to the idea of chatting to a stranger in a coffee shop or being introduced to someone on a night out with friends so try to stay open-minded about the romantic possibilities in everyday encounters.
